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Editorial Reviews: Jill Nelson in USA Today, 10/22/99
"The new edition of Stolen Lives: Killed by Law Enforcement gives life, face and context to more than 2,000 people killed by police officers since 1990. The powerful and chilling book... is a stark... documentation of circumstances surrounding the deaths of individuals killed by police officers. Reading this book resurrects these lives briefly and makes painfully clear the price paid first by those killed, but ultimately by all Americans, when we allow those hired to serve and protect to abuse their power and our trust. The victims of Stolen Lives cross race, gender, religion, geography and circumstance. Unknown to one another and to most of us in life, in death they speak with one voice. Their message is a simply one: No more lives should be lost as a result of police misconduct and brutality. The argument about how many rotten apples there are in law enforcement is absurd in the face of these stolen lives."

Jimmy Breslin in New York Newsday, 10/13/99 - "[Stolen Lives is] a large striking book...contain[ing] the pictures and short accounts of the deaths of 2,000 people killed by law enforcement in America, hundreds of them here [in New York City]. All but a couple of the victims were dark and the police were white and virtually none got into trouble until now.... Looking at the book yesterday, page after page of young dead, I was unprepared for the nightmare."

More Editorial Reviews:

J. Andree Smith, mother of police brutality victim Justin Smith, associate editor of Daily Challenge, in Daily Challenge [Brooklyn, NY], 10/7/99 - "[Stolen Lives] provides important and compelling exposure of the nationwide epidemic of police brutality and murder. Speaking through the pages, [my son] Justin and more than 2,00 others who have been killed, our families, loved ones and communities under the gun tell their heart-wrenching and shocking stories. For people who don't deal with police brutality in their daily lives, this book of human tragedies shows that the phenomenon of beatings and killings by those sworn to protect us is more than just a 'few bad apples' or some 'isolated incidents,' as police would have us believe. As a mother whose youngest son has joined the spirits of these victims, I painfully relived Justin's unjustified killing...[in] each person's story."

Carl Dix in Revolutionary Worker, 10/17/99 - "Opening the new Stolen Lives edition is like uncovering a mass grave. This book is our declaration: BASTA YA, NO MORE!"


Dr. William F. Schulz, Executive Director, Amnesty International - "As recently as 199l, 5% of the American people (approximately l2.5 million people) and 9% of all people of color in this country reported in a Gallup poll that they had been mistreated by the police. Under the Police Accountability Act provisions of the 1994 Crime Control Act, the Justice Department is required to compile and publish regularly detailed national data on police use of force. Such data is not, however, available in any satisfactory form. That private organizations have undertaken to begin such a compilation is highly commendable. But that they should have had to do so is both a tragedy and an indictment of the government. The only way the American public will ever demand an end to harassment and unjustified killings by the police is if they know the full extent and nature of the problem. The Stolen Lives Project makes a valuable contribution to that education. What is required now is to put our knowledge to work to stop the police violence t! hat has made this project necessary in the first place."

Chuck D., Public Enemy, in a public service announcement video announcing the Stolen Lives book, October 1999 - "The Stolen Lives Project is a good project. It helps people keep in line in the fight to stop police brutality. Police brutality -- a NO NO NO NO NO!"

Nicholas Heyward, Sr., father of Nicholas, Jr., African American, shot dead at age 13 by a housing authority cop for playing with a bright orange toy gun in the stairwell of his building - "It is somewhat difficult at times for me to talk about my son and the situation that happened to him. He was l3 years old when he was gunned down by a police officer in a complex where we live out in Brooklyn [New York]. This happened in 1994. There was never any justice done in the case. It's always been hard for me to understand why justice can't be done when the people who are being killed are innocent kids. Stolen Lives means a lot to me because it is keeping alive the names of those who died. These are innocent people who are being gunned down and something must be done."

Book Description - Stolen Lives documents over 2000 cases of people killed by law enforcement agents throughout the U.S. since 1990. Information includes the victims' names, ages, race/nationality, date killed, location, and a description of the circumstances surrounding their deaths. Some photos of victims are also included. The book includes cases from 47 states and Washington, D.C.

From the Inside Flap - Stolen Lives - Killed by Law Enforcement is dedicated to all those who have lost their lives at the hands of brutal law enforcement officers and to the families of victims who have inspired a movement to fight for justice and demand that police brutality stop.

From the Back Cover - There is a nationwide epidemic of police brutality in the United States. The victims are overwhelmingly African American, Latino, and other people of color.

Stolen Lives provides important and compelling exposures of the nationwide epidemic of police brutality and murder. People who've been killed, their families and loved ones, and communities under the gun speak through the pages and tell their stories. And they get a platform to speak out even more broadly.

Among people who don't deal with police brutality in their daily lives, this book shows that it's more than just a "few bad apples" or some "isolated incidents." Many such people will be moved to join the struggle against police brutality and stand with those under the gun when they see the shocking scope of this epidemic.

About the Author
- The October 22 Coalition to Stop Police Brutality, Repression and the Criminalization of a Generation organizes a National Day of Protest to Stop Police Brutality on October 22 of each year. In 1998, the 3rd National Day of Protest featured demonstrations, cultural events, and other actions in over 60 cities across the U.S. Families of police brutality victims played a leading role in these activities.

The National Lawyers Guild is a bar association that believes human rights are more sacred than property interests, and that has been defending progressive movements for social change for the past 62 years.

The Anthony Baez Foundation was established by the family of Anthony Baez, a young man killed by a New York City cop in an illegal chokehold on Dec. 22, 1994. The Foundation provides political, emotional and moral support and legal referrals to families who lose loved ones to brutal police.

Excerpted from Stolen Lives - Killed by Law Enforcement (2nd edition) by October 22 Coalition to Stop Police Brutality, Anthony Baez Foundation, National Lawyers Guild. Copyright © 1999. Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved
Amadou Diallo - age 22 - Guinean (West African) - killed Feb. 4, 1999 - Bronx (Soundview). Amadou Diallo came to New York from his homeland in Guinea, West Africa, to work and study. He worked long hours as a street vendor, selling socks and videotapes on Manhattan's 14th Street. On the night he was killed, he got home from a long day of work around midnight and then stepped out again, possibly to get something to eat. Four white cops, New York Police Officers Sean Carroll, Kenneth Boss, Edward McMellon, and Richard Murphy fired 41 bullets at him as he stood in the narrow vestibule of his building, hitting him 19 times and killing him. Officers McMellon and Carroll emptied their clips, firing 16 shots each. Officer Boss fired five shots and Officer Murphy fired four. Bullets penetrated deep into the building, going through the walls of an occupied apartment. Amadou was unarmed. All that was found on him were his wallet and his beeper. The cops were members of the Street Crimes Unit (SCU), which is notorious for stopping and searching large numbers of Black and Latino men without probable cause. The SCU's slogan is "We own the night," and members of the unit were known to wear t-shirts bearing an Ernest Hemingway quote about the thrill of hunting human beings. Massive community outrage followed the murder of Amadou Diallo. His funeral was attended by thousands, and his coffin was carried through the street outside the mosque after the service. There were weeks of near-daily demonstrations around the city, and over 1,200 people demanding murder indictments of the four cops were arrested in acts of civil disobedience in front of police headquarters. Large numbers of people of diverse ethnic and socio-economic backgrounds were outraged at this cold-blooded murder and the city's failure to arrest the cops. Under intense community pressure and almost two months after killing Amadou Diallo, the four cops were indicted by a grand jury for second-degree murder. Outside the hearing where the indictments were unsealed, several hundred off-duty cops held a demonstration supporting the four cops who murdered Amadou Diallo, saying, "It could have been any one of us." After their indictments, the four cops were arrested, but released on bail almost immediately. They were suspended without pay for 30 days, but then returned to work on desk duty. Through their lawyers, the cops suggested that perhaps they thought Amadou had a gun, perhaps he made a suspicious movement, perhaps he did not obey their order to stop. But as of Aug., 1999, they have not offered a concrete explanation for why they shot Amadou so many times. Outrage mounted when it came out that cops searched Mr. Diallo's apartment after they killed him, looking for drugs or something they could use to defame his reputation and thereby justify his death (they didn't find anything). An autopsy showed that at least one bullet hit Amadou in the bottom of the foot, showing that the cops kept shooting after he was down. In the wake of the shooting, the city speeded up its plan to arm cops with deadlier hollow-point bullets on the grounds that the number of shots fired showed that police lacked adequate "stopping power." Officer Boss had previously shot and killed another Black man, Patrick Bailey, on Oct. 31, 1997. Two of the other cops who killed Amadou Diallo had previously been involved in non-fatal shootings.

"Profiles in Injustice: Why Racial Profiling Cannot Work" David Harris, New York: The New Press, 2002